Empathy Interview Role Swap Game
Interview a family member deeply, then present their story to the group as if you were them — a powerful perspective-taking exercise.
What You'll Need
- 1Paper for notes (optional)
- 2Timer
What You'll Need
Paper for notes (optional)
A timer
How to Play
Pair up. Each pair finds a quiet spot.
Person A interviews Person B for 5 minutes about a meaningful experience — a challenge they faced, a proud moment, a tough day.
Ask deep questions: "How did that make you feel? What were you thinking? What happened next?"
Listen carefully. Take notes if needed.
Regroup. Person A introduces Person B's story to the group — but tells it in first person, as if they ARE Person B.
"I'm going to tell you about the time I won the science fair..." (tells their partner's story).
Person B rates the accuracy: "That was exactly right!" or "Actually, I felt more nervous than excited."
Why It Works
This is empathy at its most demanding. To tell someone else's story in first person, you have to deeply understand their experience — not just the events, but the emotions, the thoughts, the meaning. The interview forces careful listening. The first-person retelling forces perspective-taking. And the accuracy check reveals gaps between what was communicated and what was understood. This exercise consistently produces "I didn't know that about you" moments that deepen relationships. It's used by professional mediators and therapists for good reason.
Tips
Start with light topics ("Tell me about your best birthday") before moving to deeper ones.
The most common error: assuming emotions rather than asking about them. Coach kids to ask "How did you feel?" not guess.
Let both partners tell their stories. The exchange must go both ways.
This is a powerful tool after family conflicts: each person interviews the other about how they experienced the disagreement.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does this activity take?
This activity takes about 25 min, with 0 min of preparation time beforehand.
What materials do I need?
You'll need: paper for notes (optional), timer.
What age is this activity for?
This activity is designed for 8-12 years. You can adapt it for younger or older children by adjusting the complexity.
Can this be done indoors or outdoors?
This activity works great both indoors and outdoors, giving you flexibility based on the weather or your space.
How difficult is this activity?
This activity has a moderate difficulty level. It may require some preparation or guidance, but is manageable for most families.
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